Relationship

What about men and women?

Why did God wants to create these two different life forms and wants them to be combined as one ?

Some say this is so-called "complementary"

Seeing people i know around me get separated from their love one, breaking up, arguments and etc, makes me wonders a lot. Honestly, i am very grateful that i am still with my loves one, my Bay.*smile* From all the incidents that i've seen before, the outrage part was those cheating cases. Yes, i mean CASES, not case. Then, makes me wondering what was in their mind. At that particular period of time, what makes them had the idea of cheating. What affected them, influence them, seduce them or what-so-ever that leading a dead-end road for a relationship. Regardless of how long they have been together, maybe months, years.

Frankly speaking, I do hate these people, even though they are my friends or I know them, they are still disgusting people. Why? Because I felt they have indignity themselves and for their species, MEN. And therefore there is no need for respects to these human beings. I know that many guys will be saying how prejudice or how bias my statement is. Well, I do admit that for women, there are cases of cheating as well. But no offence that I still do personally felt that men have the higher percentage of cheating compared to women. And i'm strongly believe that some of the men himself do agree with me too.

Upon research, some have made an list of possible reasons why men cheats. Why men cheat on women is an age-old question. The reasons why men cheat on women can be varied. Nevertheless, some people have compiled a list of the top ten reasons why both married and unmarried men cheat. Sometimes their reasons don’t even involve you and it’s simply an ego-based decision. Other times, reasons why men cheat can involve you and your relationship, or lack thereof.

So why do some men cheat in relationships? Almost all men know that cheating is wrong, yet many they still do it. Men will blame their reasons for cheating on their genes and their necessity to reproduce. However, aren’t we suppose to be further evolved than a chimp? Shouldn’t we be able to control our bodies through our minds and conscious decisions? Apparently not always.

Here are the top ten reasons why men cheat:

1. Because they had the option. 

The old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down.

2. It boosts their ego.  Sometimes men no longer feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. There is nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger. 

3. You grow apart. 

Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought. He’s met a woman who has more in common with him who loves football or plays golf. He may check out if he is compatible with her under the sheets also. 

4. You argue a lot. 

Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something. 

5. They have fallen out of love.  Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.

6. Your sex life stinks. 

If a man has a disinterested partner or isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from becoming boring and non-existent. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not try. 

7. To get revenge. A man will sometimes cheat if he finds out his partner was cheating on him. How else is he supposed to heal those hurt feelings of his but through good old-fashioned sex? 

8. It’s new, different and exciting. Some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and want to try a hamburger. The same goes for sex with a woman. That’s why men don’t necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners.

 9. To see if they can get away with it. If a man has the attitude of “what she doesn’t know, won’t hurt her,” he may cheat to see if he is sneaky and smart enough to get away with it. However, with all the advancement in surveillance spy ware, getting caught has now become easier than ever.

 10. Because you have allowed it in the past. If you have forgiven a cheating man a couple of times, they are more than likely going to cheat again because they already know if they plead enough, you will forgive them.

Well, reasons why men cheat can be more complex than the above list or even be a combination of a few different reasons. Nevertheless, no reason is good enough reason to lie and be dishonest. After all, Karma can be a bitch. That's why even there is a list of reasons why men cheat, i still dont understand them at all, those what we so-called 'playboy'.

There's a story of a person that i know. 10 years relationship. Living like husband and wife, doing housework for him like a wife. But in the end, he leave her for another woman. From 20 years old till 30 years old. Who give her back her youth her time? Nobody, and the man, leave her just like that. 

Now look, men. When you are asking contact numbers from other girls, date another girl alone to some places - hotspot for dating especially middle of the night, flirting with the girl, date the girl everyday for lunch or dinner and etc, have you ever think about your significant other, your girlfriend? I mean like, for the girl who sacrifices so much for you, love you so much, do everything for you and yet you are to do something behind her. A very simple question i will ask first of all - where is your guilty conscience, men? You made no value to her. Well, i know sometimes it takes two-ways effort in making all these happened. Women had their responsibility on why their men choose to cheat on them too. I guess i'm not that prejudice either right? *lol*

After seeing all those relationship shit happened around my friends and any people that i know, i've been thinking a lot. How horrible are there people in relationship. Then was i, thinking why these people existed? I've come to my own conclusion, that is these people are self-centred. Yes, self-centred. He felt different, he felt happy with another girl, then he fall for her unconsciously without alert. Did he put himself on his girlfriend's shoes? i mean, did he felt how his girlfriend feels, what is her feeling and etc? Nope. These men were thinking only upon himself. That is what i called them self-centred.

Doing extra 1%. Nowadays who willing to sacrifice an extra 1% with no return-guaranteed. Bear in mind that no return-guaranteed doesnt mean that it's really no-return. I believe if you treated someone with your true heart, you will be treated the same way eventually someday. Now, everybody is just playing safe and do what beneficial themselves only. How about his girlfriend? I dont know. And i dont understand why is it so suffer to do the extra 1%. Why is it so suffer to even sacrifices a bit? Honestly, for me, it shouldnt be called as sacrifice, because 'dealing' with another woman in his life is not right at all. If you were to understand what is the meaning of 'dealing'.

Anyhow, it all doesnt really matters to me as long as it doesnt involved me. I just wanted to advice every men that please appreciate the woman you having and think twice, put yourself in her shoes before you make any action to other women. There are not much time and effort for everyone to play the love game. You will get old one day. Or maybe you wanted to be at the age of 28 or 30 or even 35 only start your journey to establish a stable relationship, just go ahead. Just for your information, it's not that easy to build a well-established relationship and settle down. If you think that hurting her, backstabbing her behind (by doing things that you just feel like doing with others) while she still thought her relationship with you is still stable and happy will make you feel no sense of guiltiness, then just go ahead with the sin. You may not see what is coming now, but i believe you will see your retribution in the future, soon enough.

Well, all these is just my thoughts after seeing so many stories in relationship lately. Not meant to offended anyone. It all still non-of-my-business, technically. *lol* For now, i do not wish for much, i just hope that my relationship is stable and enough to survive till the day i left this world. A relationship is that the someone that i can be my real-self with him and same goes to him. There is no need of hiding, lie-ing or faking own-self to each other. If is so, there is no more relationship needed. Because everyone is faking themselves. I just wish for a very simple man in my life, i wanted a true, truthful guy. 

Actually you know why did God wants to create these two different life forms (men and women) and wants them to be combined as one? Because men and women are like locks and keys. Each locks and keys has its own composition and structure that fits the another one. Then only we can open the door to a better brighter place instead of trapped in a room of no direction. When a couple get married, they have found their motivation and direction of life. It can be their family, children, financial or even just any plans that they have for their future. This is the door i've been wanted to open for so long. I dont want to just wander around and restart the cycle of relationship again and again till i finally get my right key.

When i said is you, then you are the one that i want, not others. :-)