Thursday, May 31, 2012

Divination - chinese fortune sticks


I got this from a temple last weekend. For those who do not know what is this, this is the result i get from the chinese fortune sticks (kau cim). The prediction begins with the cup storing a number of the sticks. After the querent has finished their denotions to the main deity, the querent kneels and thinks silently or whispers it to the deity about thier question while holding the cup between their palms. This part needs to be done decisely as one should not shift questions or hesitate on the question in the middle of the rite. The shaking of the cylinder, which is usually tipped slightly downwards, results in at least one stick leaving the cylinder and being dropped onto the floor. In most cases, if multiple sticks leave the cylinder, those fortunes would not count and must be shaken again. Each stick, with its designated number, represents one answer. When a single stick falls out, the number will correspond to the 100 written oracles with an answer on it. The writing on the piece of paper will provide an answer to the question.


Well this is what i've got last weekend. If you understood chinese words, you may know what it's talking about. For those who don't, this is quite a nice fortune telling. It says i would able to get what i've wanted all along, as long as i have got the passion and heart, everything is hopeful enough. It says it's time to get engaged, from then on my family will have changes. And it says something about children. LOL. After June any deal and business will be smoother. But the only bad thing it says is my family. 


Anyhow, just came into my mind. Should i believe this? Or am i superstitious? LOL. Well i found one article showing that superstitious actually can boost one's confidence. Sharing with all of you about the article. 



Superstitions run rampant in our daily lives. Sportsmen wear lucky clothes that they refuse to wash during tournaments. Actors refer to Shakespeare’s Macbeth as “The Scottish Play” within the confines of a theatre, because the name is said to be cursed.  Everywhere, people knock on wood, cross their fingers and carry lucky mascots.
It’s easy enough to dismiss these beliefs as the silly by-products of irrational minds, but Lysann Damisch from the University of Cologne has found an upside to superstition – they can improve our performance in a variety of tasks, from physical challenges to memory games. It’s all to do with self-confidence. Pandering to luck-related superstitions, by crossing your fingers in hope or saying “break a leg”, can boost a person’s faith in their own abilities, giving them the edge they need to excel.
First, Damisch asked 51 students to complete a dexterity challenge: get 36 ball bearings into a grid of 36 holes as quickly as possible, by tilting the cube they sat in. If she told them to start by saying either “On ‘go’, you go” or “I press the watch for you”, they took between 5 and 6 minutes to finish. But if she said “I press the thumb for you” (the German equivalent of crossing your fingers), they took around 3 minutes.
In another study, Jamisch asked 41 students to come with a lucky charm, which she took away to photograph. In some cases, she brought it back and in others, she left it in the other room, citing problems with the camera. The students then completed a seemingly unrelated memory game, where they had to match 18 pairs of face-down cards by turning over two at a time. The volunteers who had their lucky charms did much better than those who were bereft of theirs.
Before they started on the game, the recruits all completed a questionnaire. Their answers later revealed that those who were given back their charms didn’t feel any less anxious about the game. But they did feel more confident and their degree of extra optimism accounted for much of their extra success at the memory game.
In a final experiment, Jamisch repeated the lucky charm set-up with a couple of tweaked details. This time they had to make as many words as possible from a set of 8 letters and, crucially, they had to set themselves a goal to aim for.  As before, those who held their lucky charms felt more confident and scored better, identifying an average of 46 words compared to the mere 31 deciphered by their mascot-less peers. Their goals revealed why – not only did they set themselves loftier targets, but they stuck at the problem for much longer.
These experiments are remarkably consistent in showing that a variety of superstitious beliefs have a positive effect on a variety of tasks, both physical and mental. They work whether the superstition is activated by someone else (as in the case of the crossed fingers) or if it’s something unique to the individual (as in the case of the lucky charms). And they work because superstitions, by prompting feelings of good luck, can make people more confident in themselves, prompting them to try harder and aim higher at the things they do.
The fact that superstitions can lead to tangible improvements in physical and mental performance could help to explain why they’re so commonplace and closely held. But before we conclude that they are a force for good (and I can sense the bristling from the skeptic community already), it is worth discussing the study’s narrow scope.
Jamisch certainly does that – she acknowledges that she deliberately focused on positive superstitions associated with good luck, because these are far more common. She might find a different effect altogether if she considered events linked to misfortune, like crossing the path of a wrongly coloured cat, doing the same tasks on Friday 13th, or stepping under an open ladder.
Nor did Jamisch study the negative side of superstitions, the psychological drawbacks that could hinder performance rather than help it. Previously on this blog, I’ve written about how people tend to spot false connections in unrelated events and accept superstitious rituals in the first place if they lack a sense of control in their lives.
As I noted then, the big worry is that superstitions, while potentially providing temporary benefits, could prevent people from taking responsibility for changing their own fates or even form the basis of catastrophic decisions. Clearly, the effects described by Jamisch’s study need to be considered as part of a bigger psychological canvas. The effects of crossed fingers on anagram tasks is one thing, but the effects of conspiracy theories or religious traditions on our ability to understand the world around us and to make decisions in our lives is another matter entirely.




Well, believe it or not, i will still keeping that piece of paper which had my divination.
It's not called LIFE if there ain't any ups and downs.


Cheers readers.








Sunday, May 27, 2012

With Love



It was quite a surprise during my two-days one-night stay at my His house. His mom made this cute little mug for the whole family, 2 of our friends and also me !  <3 How sweet is that. Thanks.

We all miss him so much.

I love you Flintstone Ng, May you rest in peace.

with love.



Saturday, May 26, 2012

Well said.


The longer i live, the more i realize the impact of attitude on life, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.

We cannot change our past, we cannot change the fact that people will act in certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how i react to it. And so it is with you, we are in charge of our Attitudes.



Charles R. Swindoll quotes (American writer & Clergyman, b. 1934)



Well said.

Cheers.

Saturday, May 12, 2012

Living the Enriched Life


Yes.... i know....i know....it's been so long, so long that i never updated anything onto my blog. But all i can say is that i'm having a busy life lately, or should i say 'enriched life'? LOL. My schedule is full until mid of June, is that a good news? *smile* you see, I'm having celebration this weekend, even weekday i have important company event to attend, following weekend an old friend of mine wedding dinner, then i need to rush for outdoor photoshooting at Ipoh. The following weekend some more i have to attend a make up competition as a model, and then another following weekend i need to go Kuala Lumpur for Super GT event and also performing at an event for Jason. Well, my life is quite enriched, i would said. Seems like i've fully utilized every single minutes of my life, isnt it? LOL *rf*


Anyhow, tho lately i felt i'm in terrible bad luck, but life is very much the same. For those who suffering from bad luck lately, this article might help :

Are you one of those people who are always suffering setbacks? Does little ever seem to go right for you? Are you dogged by constant instances of sheer bad luck? Do you sometimes feel that the universe is out to get you?
Let me let you into a secret: your luck is no worse—and no better—than anyone else’s. It just feels that way. Better, still, there are two simple things you can do which will reverse your feelings of being unlucky.
  • Stop believing that what happens in your life is down to the vagaries of luck, destiny, supernatural forces, malevolent other people, or anything else outside your self.

    Psychologists call this “external locus of control.” It’s a kind of fatalism, where people believe that they can do little or nothing personally to change their lives. Because of this, they either merely hope for the best, focus on trying to change their luck by various kinds of superstition, or submit passively to whatever comes—while complaining that it doesn’t match their hopes.
    Most successful people take the opposite view. They have “internal locus of control.” They believe that what happens in their life is nearly all down to them; and that even when chance events occur, what is important is not the event itself, but how you respond to it.
    This makes them pro-active, engaged, ready to try new things, and keen to find the means to change whatever in their lives they don’t like. They aren’t fatalistic and they don’t blame bad luck for what isn’t right in their world. They look for a way to make things better.
    Are they luckier than the others? Of course not. Luck is random—that’s what chance means—so they are just as likely to suffer setbacks as anyone else. What’s different is their response. When things go wrong, they quickly look for ways to put them right. They don’t whine, pity themselves, or complain about “bad luck.” They try to learn from what happened to avoid or correct it next time and get on with living their life as best they can.
    No one is habitually luckier or unluckier than anyone else. It may seem so, over the short term (Random events often come in groups, just as random numbers often lie close together for several instances—which is why gamblers tend to see patterns where none exist). When you take a longer perspective, random chance is just . . . random. Yet those who feel that they are less lucky, typically pay far more attention to short-term instances of bad luck, convincing themselves of the correctness of their belief.
    Your locus of control isn’t genetic. You learned it somehow. If it isn’t working for you, change it.
  • Remember that whatever you pay attention to grows in your mind.
    If you focus on what’s going wrong in your life—especially if you see it as “bad luck” you can do nothing about—it will seem blacker and more malevolent. In a short time, you’ll become so convinced that everything is against you that you’ll notice more and more instances where this appears to be true. As a result, you will almost certainly stop trying, convinced that nothing you can do will improve your prospects.
    Fatalism feeds on itself, until people become passive “victims” of life’s blows. The “losers” in life are those who are convinced they will fail before they start anything; sure that their “bad luck” will ruin any prospects of success. They rarely notice that the true reasons for their failure are ignorance, laziness, lack of skill, lack of forethought, or just plain foolishness—all of which they could do something to correct, if only they would stop blaming other people or “bad luck” for their personal deficiencies.
    Your attention is under your control. Send it where you want it to go. Starve the negative thoughts until they die.
To improve your fortune, first decide that what happens is nearly always down to you; then try focusing on what works and what turns out well, not the bad stuff. Your “fate” really does depend on the choices that you make. When random events happen, as they always will, do you choose to try to turn them to your advantage . . . or just complain about them?
Thomas Jefferson is said to have used these words: “I’m a great believer in luck and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.” Ralph Waldo Emerson said: “Shallow men believe in luck. Strong men believe in cause and effect.”
Your luck, in the end, is pretty much what you choose it to be.



Well, cheers readers.
Remember, it is actually what you choose it to be.
<3






Monday, May 7, 2012

In memories of Flintstone Ng


Flintstone Ng

You've walked away so far, till we couldnt even have chance to say goodbye.

But boy,

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.

Memory is a way of holding onto the things you love, the things you are, the things you never want to lose.

We never wanted to lose you Boy.

May this be the ending for the four months torturing by the sick, the beginning of a new life of yours.

At least what comforted me was we're able to see you still that morning, tho you were unable to give us any responses.


Boy, we all love you so much.

I miss the every single moment you around. You liked to grab my blanket, lean on my legs in the middle of the night.

All those memories will never fade.



Love,
Shirley Qiu




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